{"id":9612,"date":"2022-11-14T12:33:59","date_gmt":"2022-11-14T04:33:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bestbanana.cc\/blog\/?p=9612"},"modified":"2026-05-26T09:04:55","modified_gmt":"2026-05-26T09:04:55","slug":"how-to-be-polite-%e8%8b%b1%e8%aa%9e%e5%a6%82%e4%bd%95%e7%a6%ae%e8%b2%8c","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/english.bestbanana.cc\/blog\/post\/9612","title":{"rendered":"How to be polite? \u82f1\u8a9e\u5982\u4f55\u79ae\u8c8c"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\u82f1\u8a9e\u7684\u79ae\u8c8c\u7528\u8a9e\u662f\u53e3\u8aaa\u7684\u57fa\u672c\u9700\u77e5\uff0c\u5c24\u5176\u5c0d\u51fa\u570b\u7559\u5b78\u6216\u65c5\u884c\u7684\u8b80\u8005\u5011\u4f86\u8aaa\u3002\u672c\u6587\u8490\u96c6\u57fa\u672c\u7684\u79ae\u8c8c\u7528\u8a9e\u7bc4\u4f8b\uff0c\u4ee5\u53ca\u5982\u4f55\u79ae\u8c8c\u5730\u62d2\u7d55\uff0c\u4e26\u4e14\u907f\u514d\u932f\u8aa4\u5730\u4f7f\u7528 Sorry \u9019\u500b\u5e38\u5e38\u88ab\u8aa4\u7528\u7684\u5b57\u3002<\/p>\n\n\n

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\u5f71\u7247\u4e2d\u8a73\u8ff0\u4e86 Could you open the window? \u986f\u7684\u79ae\u8c8c\u7684\u539f\u56e0\u3002\u4e26\u63d0\u5230\u4e00\u53e5\u8d85\u8907\u96dc\u7684\u554f\u53e5 I was wondering if you wouldn't mind opening the window if it's not too much trouble.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u57fa\u672c\u6982\u5ff5<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

\u672a\u4f86\u9032\u884c\u5f0f\u554f\u53e5<\/strong>\u505a\u70ba\u79ae\u8c8c\u7528\u8a9e\u662f EFL \u6700\u4e0d\u719f\u6089\u7684\u8b1b\u6cd5\uff0c\u7528\u65bc\u6b63\u5f0f\u4e14\u79ae\u8c8c\u5730\u300c\u5c0b\u554f\u8a08\u756b<\/strong>\u300d\uff08\u4e00\u822c\u53ef\u4ee5\u7528 be going to \u554f\u5c0d\u65b9\u7684\u300c\u6253\u7b97<\/strong>\u300d\uff09\u3002Would \u8207 Could \u662f\u6700\u5e38\u898b\u7684\u79ae\u8c8c\u5c0b\u554f\u7528\u8a9e\uff0c\u524d\u8005\u5c0b\u554f\u300c\u6703\u55ce\uff1f<\/strong>\u300d\uff0c\u800c\u5f8c\u8005\u554f\u300c\u80fd\u55ce\uff1f<\/strong>\u300d\u3002\u5169\u8005\u53ef\u901a\u7528\uff0c\u7136\u800c could \u8a9e\u6c23\u66f4\u8fd1\u65bc\u300c\u62dc\u6258<\/strong>\u300d\uff0c\u4e5f\u56e0\u6b64\uff0c\u5728\u6b63\u8a66\u5834\u5408\u8f03\u5c11\u4f7f\u7528 could you\u3002\u800c would \u5247\u6bd4\u8f03\u842c\u7528\uff0c\u751a\u81f3\u53ef\u4ee5\u7528\u65bc\u300c\u751f\u6c23<\/strong>\u300d\u7684\u8b1b\u6cd5\u3002Ref. <\/a>\u4f8b\u5982 <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A: Are you going to come to the party tonight? \uff08\u6253\u7b97\uff0c\u53e3\u8a9e\u8f03\u70ba\u96a8\u4fbf\u7684\u554f\u6cd5\uff0cbe going to = gonna\uff09
B: Yes. Will you be having extra seats for my friends?\uff08\u672a\u4f86\u9032\u884c\u5f0f\u554f\u53e5\uff0c\u76f8\u7576\u6b63\u5f0f\u5730\u8a62\u554f\u4ed6\u4eba\u7684\u8a08\u756b\uff09
A: Would you mind giving me the names? \uff08\u6ce8\u610f\uff0c\u9019\u908a\u53ef\u4ee5\u770b\u51fa\u6709\u4e9b\u6642\u5019\u4f7f\u7528 could \u8a9e\u610f\u6703\u932f\u6389\uff09
B: Would it be possible to bring four of my friends with me?\uff08\u66f4\u9593\u63a5\u7684\u79ae\u8c8c\u554f\u6cd5\uff0c\u4e00\u6a23\u4e0d\u9069\u7528\u65bc could \u7684\u8a9e\u6c23\uff09
A: Could you limit it to three people?\uff08\u9019\u908a\u4e5f\u53ef\u4ee5\u7528 would\u3002\u7136\u800c\uff0c\u56e0\u8b1b\u8005\u8981B\u4fee\u6539\u4ed6\u539f\u672c\u7684\u60f3\u6cd5\uff0c\u6240\u4ee5\u8a9e\u610f\u4e0a\u6709\u300c\u80fd\u55ce\uff1f\u300d\u7684\u610f\u5473\uff0c\u6b64\u6642\u4f7f\u7528 could \u9019\u500b\u5e36\u6709\u300c\u62dc\u6258\u300d\u7684\u8a9e\u6c23\u66f4\u9069\u5408\uff09
B: Would you PLEASE ask your boss?\uff08\u70ba\u4e86\u89e3\u91cb would \u7684\u7279\u6b8a\u7528\u6cd5\uff0c\u9019\u908a\u786c\u63d2\u4e00\u500b\u4e0d\u5408\u60c5\u5883\u7684\u751f\u6c23\u8a9e\u53e5\u3002please \u5927\u5beb\u8868\u793a\u8a9e\u8abf\u62c9\u9ad8\uff0c\u8072\u97f3\u8b8a\u5927\uff0c\u624d\u80fd\u8b8a\u6210\u62b1\u6028\u7684\u8a9e\u6c23\uff09<\/p>\n\n\n

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I was hoping\/wondering if<\/strong> you could<\/strong> give me a lift to the party. \u904e\u53bb\u5f0f + could = polite ask
You couldn't<\/strong> give me a lift, could you? \u5426\u5b9a\/\u9644\u52a0\u554f\u53e5 = more polite ask
I don't suppose <\/strong>you could pick me up, could you? \u5426\u5b9a\/\u9644\u52a0\u554f\u53e5 + suppose = even more polite ask<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I reckon\/guess\/feel <\/strong>you are too young to get married. \u8a8d\u77e5\u8a9e = indirect opinion
It seems\/appears<\/strong> you have made a mistake here. \u8a8d\u77e5\u8a9e = indirect opinion
Aren't you a little\/kind\/sort of<\/strong> too young to get married? \u7591\u554f + a little\/kind\/sort of = indirect opinion<\/p>\n\n\n

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If you don't mind<\/strong>, would you do me a favor and put the dishes in the dishwasher?
If it's not a problem<\/strong>, could I call you back in ten minutes?
When you have a moment\/second,<\/strong> could you email me the documents?
I'd appreciate it<\/strong>, if you would have it done this afternoon. \u6ce8\u610f\uff01\u6b64\u70ba\u4e0a\u5c0d\u4e0b<\/strong>\u7684\u79ae\u8c8c\u8b1b\u6cd5\u3002<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When\/If you get a chance<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

If<\/strong> you get a chance, could<\/strong> you water our plants? = \u5047\u5982\u6709\u6a5f\u6703\u7684\u8a71\uff0c\u80fd\u5e6b\u5fd9\u4ea4\u6c34\u55ce\uff1f\u9019\u500b if \u6697\u6307\u6a5f\u6703\u4e0d\u4e00\u5b9a\u6703\u6709\uff0c\u6240\u4ee5\u5982\u679c\u7b54\u61c9\u7684\u8a71\uff0c\u9084\u662f\u4e0d\u4e00\u5b9a\u8981\u505a\u3002
When<\/strong> you get a chance, would<\/strong> you water our plants? = \u6709\u6a5f\u6703\u6642\uff0c\u4f60\u6703\u5e6b\u5fd9\u6f86\u6c34\u55ce\uff1f\u9019\u500b when \u6697\u6307\u6a5f\u6703\u4e00\u5b9a\u6703\u6709\uff08\u53ef\u80fd\u662f\u5728\u4ea4\u5f85\u67d0\u500b\u54e1\u5de5\u7684\u60c5\u5883\u4e0b\uff09\uff0c\u6240\u4ee5\u8981\u6c42\u66f4\u76f4\u63a5\uff0c\u4e5f\u56e0\u6b64\u4e0d\u4f7f\u7528 could \u9019\u9ebc\u4f4e\u8072\u4e0b\u6c23\u7684\u5b57\u3002Ref.<\/a>\u3002
By <\/strong>any chance, could you give me a ride home from work today? = \u5982\u679c\u6709\u6a5f\u6703\u7684\u8a71\u3002\u9019\u500b\u8b1b\u6cd5\u662f\u6700\u62dc\u6258\u4eba\u7684\u3002<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Polite Suggestion<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

What if<\/strong> we reschedule for another day because it's raining today. = \u5047\u5982\u2026\u600e\u9ebc\u6a23\uff1f
How about (if)<\/strong> we go out and eat instead. = \u2026\u5982\u4f55\uff1f\u672c\u7528\u6cd5\u53ef\u4e0d\u52a0 if\uff0c\u4f46\u52a0\u4e86\u4e4b\u5f8c\u66f4\u79ae\u8c8c\uff0c\u56e0\u70ba if \u5e36\u6709\u4e0d\u78ba\u5b9a\u7684\u8a9e\u6c23\u3002
What do you think about<\/strong> rescheduling our golf game. = \u4f60\u8a8d\u70ba\u2026\u5982\u4f55\uff1f\u6b64\u70ba\u6700\u4e2d\u5fc3\u7684\u5efa\u8b70\u8a9e\u6c23\u3002
You should probably<\/strong> check the oven. \u4e0d\u4f7f\u7528 check out\uff0c\u56e0\u70ba check out \u662f\u6307\u53bb\u9ad4\u9a57\u770b\u770b\u3002<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Offer Help<\/h2>\n\n\n
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Would you like me to<\/strong> open the window? + No, thank you. I can manage.
Shall I<\/strong> shut the door?\uff08\u7279\u5225\u79ae\u8c8c\u7684\u8b1b\u6cd5\uff09+ Thank you very much. That's very kind of you.
I'll \/<\/strong> Let me<\/strong> get the door for you.\uff08\u975e\u6b63\u5f0f\uff0cget the door = \u958b\u9580\uff09+ I'm fine, thanks.<\/p>\n\n\n

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Would you mind opening the door? If it's OK with you, could we <\/strong>open the door? When you have a minute<\/strong>, could you send me that file? Why don't we<\/strong> take a break?<\/p>\n\n\n

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\u79ae\u8c8c\u8a9e\u5927\u5168\uff0c\u8a9e\u901f\u8f03\u6162\uff0c\u5efa\u8b70\u5229\u7528\u9375\u76e4\u5de6\u53f3\u9375\u5feb\u901f\u5fa9\u7fd2\u3002<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u505c\u6b62\u8aaa\u62b1\u6b49 Stop Apologizing<\/h2>\n\n\n
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\u4e0d\u6b62\u662f\u570b\u4eba\uff0cnative speaker \u4e5f\u5e38\u5e38\u5728\u4e0d\u6d3d\u7576\u7684\u6642\u6a5f say sorry\uff0c\u5c0e\u81f4\u500b\u4eba\u5f62\u50cf\u986f\u5f97\u7f3a\u4e4f\u81ea\u4fe1\u3002\u6b63\u78ba\u7684\u4f7f\u7528\u6642\u6a5f\u662f\u53ea\u5728\u300c\u50b7\u5bb3\u4e86\u4ed6\u4eba\u300d\u9019\u7a2e\u8f03\u70ba\u56b4\u91cd\u7684\u72c0\u6cc1\u4e0b\u4f7f\u7528 sorry\u3002\u53d6\u800c\u4ee3\u4e4b\uff0c\u5728\u76f8\u7576\u8f15\u5fae<\/strong>\u7684\u72af\u932f\u72c0\u6cc1\uff0c\u61c9\u5229\u7528 whoops, my bad, sorry about that. \u5728\u793e\u4ea4\u610f\u5916<\/strong>\u7684\u72c0\u6cc1\u4e0b\uff08\u51fa\u7cd7\u3001\u96e2\u958b\u3001\u6253\u65b7\u5c0d\u8a71\u6216\u8005\u884c\u70ba\uff09\uff0c\u53ef\u5229\u7528 excuse \/ pardon me\u3002\u6ce8\u610f\uff0c\u7576\u8a9e\u6c23\u4e0d\u540c\u6642\uff0cexcuse \/ pardon \u6703\u8b8a\u6210\u8cea\u554f<\/strong>\u7684\u8a9e\u6c23\u3002 \u6b64\u5916\uff0c\u6bd4 sorry \u66f4\u56b4\u91cd\u7684\u9053\u6b49\uff0c\u53ef\u4ee5\u4f7f\u7528 I want to apologize for \/ My apologies \/ Please forgive me. \/ I want to make amends \/ I didn't mean to offend you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sorry \u53ef\u4ee5\u8868\u9054\u300c\u907a\u61be<\/strong>\u300d\u3002\u4f8b\u5982 I'm sorry to hear about that \/ for your loss. \u6709\u6642\u8981\u8b1b\u76f8\u7576\u50b7\u4eba\u7684\u8a71\u4e4b\u524d\u6703\u5148\u9053\u6b49\u4e00\u4e0b\u3002\u4f8b\u5982 Please forgive me \/ I don't want to offend you, but you are totally wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n

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No apology: Thank you for your patience VS I'm sorry to be late.
Do you mind<\/strong> if I ask you a question speaker to speaker?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u52c7\u6562\uff06\u79ae\u8c8c\u5730\u300c\u62d2\u7d55\u300d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

\u7b46\u8005\u8a8d\u70ba\uff0c\u62d2\u7d55\u4ed6\u4eba\u8981\u6c42\u7684\u5e6b\u5fd9\u662f\u91cd\u8981\u7684\u8655\u4e16\u6280\u5de7\u3002\u7e3d\u662f\u5e6b\u5fd9\u7684\u4eba\uff0c\u5982\u679c\u7a81\u7136\u4e0d\u5e6b\u4e86\uff0c\u53cd\u800c\u6703\u88ab\u8cac\u602a\u3002\u53cd\u4e4b\uff0c\u7e3d\u662f\u62d2\u7d55\u7684\u4eba\u53ef\u4ee5\u7a4d\u805a\u8cc7\u6e90\uff0c\u5728\u95dc\u9375\u7684\u6642\u5019\u4e00\u51fa\u624b\uff0c\u53d7\u76ca\u8005\u624d\u6703\u77e5\u9053\u611f\u6069\u3002\u4ee5\u4e0b\u8490\u96c6\u5404\u7a2e\u4e0d\u540c\u7684\u62d2\u7d55\u60f3\u6cd5\u8207\u82f1\u8a9e\u8b1b\u6cd5\uff0c\u4f9b\u8b80\u8005\u53c3\u8003\u3002<\/p>\n\n\n

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\u958b\u982d\u5f31\u5316\uff1aUnfortunately \/ I'm afraid \/ Sorry<\/strong>, but + I'm not able to do that \/ that's not possible \/ I don't think that's a good idea \/ I can't make it<\/strong> (to the meeting) \u8868\u9054\u5230\u4e0d\u4e86\u6642\uff0c\u53ef\u4f7f\u7528 Can't make it to \u5730\u9ede\u3002
\u61f7\u7591\u5f31\u5316\uff1aI'm not sure \/ It's looking unlikely<\/strong> \/ It's unlikely<\/strong> \/ I doubt if<\/strong> I'll be able to make it to your party tonight.
\u5efa\u8b70\uff1aLet's try next week \/ I've got another idea<\/p>\n\n\n

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WORDS = Welcome, Object, Reveal, Debrief, Seal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Welcome: I really like your idea \/ I wish I could \/ I'd really like to help \/
Object: but it's not practical \/ it will not be possible today.
Reveal: I'm working on something important right now. \/ I have a very packed schedule \/ I'm not very fond of \/
Debrief: Will it help if I share some old reports with you.
Seal: Thanks for asking\/ thinking of me \/ I'll be so disappointed to miss this.<\/p>\n\n\n

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I just can't do this<\/strong> right now. My plate<\/strong> is overloaded \/ I got too much on my plate.
Confirming the inconsistency without apology<\/strong>: I know you were hoping we'd..., That is not going to work for me, so I need to say No.
Postpone: Let me check my schedule, and I'll get back to you<\/strong>. It looks like a great opportunity, but I just don't have the time at the moment<\/strong>. How about if I let you know by tomorrow afternoon? I'm free later today.
Pleasant No: I really appreciate your offer to help, but I'm going to say No, thanks.<\/p>\n\n\n

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Step 1, Inform: Thank you for this opportunity. However, I regret \/ hate (\u9063\u61be) to inform that I'm declining this.
Step 2, Complement: The team is incredible..., While the company's value and mission really resonated,
Step 3, Reason: I did received another offer I accepted because it aligned closer with my personal career goal.<\/p>\n\n\n

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Saying no without reasons is a good habit. First, it saves time for the potential fluff about the following persuasion--unless you are not sure if you need that discussion. Second, if you cannot fully commit to your words, just say No and help others as well as your credit. Third, offer alternatives if possible.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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